Blindfold Sex for Beginners:
How to Go from Mild to Wild

If your bondage journey has just begun (not that you need to journey any further than blindfolds if you don’t want to!), then you’d be wise to first dip your toes into it rather than jump off the deep end. Though enacting all your wildest fantasies ASAP may be tempting, those wet dreams will come to life much smoother if you first nail down and get comfortable with the basics.

For your first foray into blindfold sex, let the blindfold be the star of the show and focus your experience on what doin’ it sans eyesight is like in and of itself. You may be surprised just how much the naughty eye mask intensifies standard sex acts you’ve done a million times, like hand jobs or even an erotic massage.

Save the whips and chains for a later date, and, for now, pair your blindfold with only the essentials like lubricant and condoms. Sex, especially kinky sex, isn’t a race – there’s no reward for speeding through it. In fact, rewards often come from the opposite approach!

We’ve already mentioned that blindfolds’ sight deprivation heightens the other senses, which is something you can and should take advantage of! Touch, arguably and understandably the sense most frequently associated with sex, is a perfect isolated place to start. With your partner already blindfolded (and having given prior consent to this activity), grab a few ‘light’ (read: made for pleasure, not pain) sensory play toys and appropriate household items and take turns using each one on your partner.

For light sensory play sex toys, you might want to try out feather ticklers, silky tie-ups, and Wartenberg wheels (which may look intimidating but aren’t painful when used with very delicate pressure). In terms of objects you may already have lying around that you can repurpose for the carnal (aka “pervertibles”), ice cubes, chiffon scarves, and textured ties work well. Take some time to fully explore each tool before moving on to the next, experimenting with different speeds and pressures to see how they might alter the sensations they offer.

You can even make a guessing game of it, if you like, offering sexual favors for correct object guesses and punishments like a spanking for incorrect guesses. Though that’s really more in line with Level 4, so further up the kink ladder we climb!

If playing around with touch alone got your blindfolded boo all hot and bothered, imagine how randy they’d be if you catered to three more of their senses! Pair sensual touches with elements that will delight their senses of taste, hearing, and smell for an invigorating sensory smorgasbord. Scented massage candles or oils with edible formulas can engage touch, smell, and taste in one fell swoop, while calming tunes or super-sexual playlists will do a fine job of seducing your partner’s eardrums.

You can even curate your sensory tools to create an immersive experience that takes them on a mini vacation. For instance, using piña colada-scented massage oil to provide a thorough rubdown as ambient music featuring the sounds of gently crashing waves plays in the background could make them feel like they’re on a sexy getaway hooking up at the beach.

Decreasing or removing even a single sense for one partner while the other maintains their full range is already a form of power play, but there are so many more ways to delve into the eroticism of power dynamics. If sensory deprivation via blindfolds has struck a pleasantly kinky chord, you may enjoy adding other sensory deprivation toys into the mix, such as restraints or ball gags. By pairing multiple sensory deprivation tools with each other, the wearer has even less control and is further subject to the (consensual, previously agreed upon) whims of the partner taking on the dominant role.

The magical combination of blindfolds and restraints, in particular, is ripe for engaging in tease and denial games. The lack of sight builds anticipation for touch, making it extra powerful when you alternate between halting stimulation and starting it back up, as your partner won’t know when to expect your next move, and the restraints will prevent them from ‘taking care of business’ themselves, no matter how much they may crave more. You can then make them beg for release, and when you finally show them mercy, their orgasm will be ultra-satisfying!